2024 Author: Howard Calhoun | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 10:16
Today, presenting yourself to others is a daily necessity for each of us. Sometimes our partners are serious business people, sometimes they are casual acquaintances, but regardless of professions and age, we all would like to make only a positive impression. And so it happens that by choosing a style of dress and behavior, communicating with familiar and unfamiliar people, or even just being present where there is another person, we already present ourselves in one way or another. To a greater extent, this happens unconsciously, one might say, at the level of "natural intuition." However, there is also a conscious, pre-planned behavior, with the use of special skills. This is a beautiful self-presentation of yourself. To apply it briefly and beautifully is a real art.
The concept of self-presentation
Many people have heard, but do not understand the meaning of the concept of "self-presentation". This word arose as a result of mixing the English word "presentation" and the Russian phrase "self". For RussianTraditions have long been characterized by the concepts of self-presentation, self-presentation, and impression management that are closer to our society.
As a new term, self-presentation can be described as the verbal and non-verbal demonstration of one's own personality, taking into account the specifics of social situations. Simply put, this is the ability to present oneself in various situations, an individual style of communication, a unique image. Most people - consciously or unconsciously - seek to influence the process of forming an impression of themselves, hence the various types of self-presentation.
Self-presentation and its types. Natural self-presentation
As noted above, there are two main types of it: natural and artificial.
Natural self-presentation is a property of all people, without exception. Naturally, it begins from birth the formation of an image in a person. So, a person already from infancy collects the “puzzle” of his image, without suspecting it himself. This happens without any deliberation and forecasting, as they say, "without ulterior motives." This natural process is called natural distribution, as a result of which a person is determined in the system of social consciousness.
But it is important to remember that within the framework of this particular type of presentation, the process itself cannot be controlled and adjusted. This is the main "anti-dignity" of natural self-presentation. It is impossible to say for sure whether its effect will be positive for the individual, or whether it will have a negative connotation. This process can be distinguished as a thoughtless, uncontrolled personality presentation.himself.
Artificial self-presentation
Until the moment when a person acquires the ability to realize artificial self-presentation, nothing can be done about it.
Artificial self-presentation about oneself (briefly and beautifully stated) pursues the main goal - gaining favor with one's person from a group of people significant for the presented. To do this, first of all, it is necessary to build an algorithm for the communication process with a potential audience.
Such a creative self-presentation is most accurately revealed when natural in the eyes of people significant to us looks very disadvantageous, and it is quite possible to artificially disguise it.
A simple example: when, thanks to your temperament, even inanimate objects “dance” around you, this sometimes has a very negative effect on family and business relationships, positioning you as a “psycho”, “unbalanced” and so on. At the same time, it must be remembered that the hallmark of a bad, negative self-presentation is the ability to increase its negative effect several times over.
Creating an image
Accordingly, in order not to fall in the eyes of colleagues, it is necessary to create an image of a calm rationalist, tactics and somewhere even pragmatics, especially if self-presentation of the leader is necessary. To earn high appreciation in the family, it is necessary to understand the members of your family, to have the quality of self-giving for the sake of your family. Although inin some situations or professional activities, an emotional approach may be necessary, but the main thing here is to remember that your self-presentation about yourself should be briefly and beautifully presented to the place and not cause a critically negative perception.
Of course, it's easy to say, but in fact it's getting harder, because the natural basis of our Self, especially spoiling our appearance in the eyes of people, is torn out.
Gift or Art?
And yet, self-presentation about yourself, briefly and beautifully presented, is it a gift or an art? Today, a person is in various situations that arise in society. And he needs bright packaging, as well as well-thought-out mottos and slogans. If we consider self-presentation through the prism of a simple sale of any product, then in this case the product is self-presentation - itself. It is impossible to master every stage of self-selling, moreover, to solve the problem in general and go through the necessary steps to success, without having mastered the skills in creating a self-presentation. Just as talent is impossible without labor and daily efforts, self-improvement is the work that we do throughout our lives. Therefore, for example, the self-presentation of a teacher is both a gift and an art in equal measure.
Reason for self-presentation
However, there are reasons that encourage a person, if he has a natural self-presentation, to consciously engage in an artificial one.
So, a brief self-presentation allows us to:
- Receive from other peoplevarious kinds of resources necessary for life - informational, material, emotional, etc. It is easier for a person who knows how to "submit" himself to get a job, to please a man or a woman.
- To construct an image of one's own personality, which directly depends both on personal beliefs, and also on how other people see us. So, if others around you laugh at your jokes, this will give you the idea that you are a witty person, if they talk about you as knowledgeable and competent, over time you yourself will believe in it.
- Social contacts flow fairly smoothly. Virtually all cultures value respect for "saving face." Others will make comments to you less often if you present their mistakes tactfully. In communication, such behavior will significantly smooth out critical moments, reduce confrontation and aggression.
And if the goal of a person is to create the most favorable impression, then in the process of communication a person is able not only to see himself through the eyes of a partner, but also, according to his expectations, correct his behavior, and ultimately control the behavior of other people.
Performance criteria
What is the effectiveness of self-presentation? So, if the opinion that the speaker is able to produce on the listener is one hundred percent, then eighty percent is taken from the personality. And so that here the natural self-presentation does not even briefly “show its head” at the most inopportune moment, thereby pushingartificial, it needs to be realized in some particular area of life, but such that the essential presentation plays into the hands. If there is no such area in your life, then you need to invent it.
So, for example, for closed people, introverts, but working in a field that requires a lot of communication, sociability, entrepreneurship, daily solitude is necessary, for which it is enough to allocate at least an hour. Extroverts are also encouraged to engage in some kind of activity that matches their temperament, sometimes even extreme sports. All of these tips are as old as the world and nothing new at the moment.
Self-tuning
To learn how to sell yourself, and the self-presentation of a teacher, educator or a person of any other profession was successful and constant, you need to know and be able to do a lot. To begin with, it is important to remember that our appearance, behavior, style is all of us.
The first thing to do before presenting yourself is to carefully study and analyze the potential audience, its inherent manner of communication and behavior, way of thinking, appearance style, preferences.
After that, you need to start working on yourself, that is, to build self-adjustment for a specific audience for future self-presentation. And in this business there is no place for laziness, it is important to be scrupulous and achieve, as they say, involvement in yourself.
Using this tactic, people to whom you will present your self-presentation will perceive you as a referent worthy of their attention and respect. Thisthe technique is characterized as "psychological stroking". Today, this is the most effective way to influence society. You become, as it were, a part of the group of people you want to impress, and they successfully accept you by the method of categorization “friend or foe”, referring you to “their own”. Such self-presentation is a guarantee of success.
Self-presentation of dominance
There is another way of artificial self-presentation, which is also based on the analysis of the potential audience. This method is called "self-presentation of dominance." The technique of this method lies in the fact that in the group that needs to be influenced accordingly, you present yourself as a standard, thereby acting as an informal leader. However, it must be remembered that this strategy is only suitable for groups of so-called "led" people, in a group with "leaders" this method of self-presentation may fail. To avoid this, it is necessary to carefully analyze the potential audience. At the same time, a group or audience is understood as both several people and one.
Algorithm
Currently, there are a sufficient number of "self-presentation" methods, but when choosing them, you must strictly follow the algorithm:
- Analysis of the "potential audience" to which the "self-presentation" is directed.
- The basis of the first stage is the strategy of non-verbal and verbal manifestation of the personality should correspond to the place of self-presentation and the time period of its implementation.
- Your actions are subject to control and coordination in accordance with the situation.
- Natural self-presentation should be realized outside the artificial context.
It is important to always remember that you are your face. And if, in your opinion, there is a point in artificial self-presentation, then the veiling, correcting and changing yourself is in your own hands.
Good luck!
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